Re: OT: Dealbreakers

Aren't Franciscans "raised Catholic" could be a dealbreaker

LOL! I was about to agree (for once) w/BGM, but... don't some monks also produce liqueurs?

Cathy

These fellas make their own beer as part of their search for god, or their car keys:

"Cathy F."...

Yup - and we drink wine for every Mass. Sadly, I don't think *anything* will make Charles happy, but he could probably at least feel better, if he gets proper treatment.

I really hate to see him this miserable, because I don't think he's a bad person at his core.

Natalie

"Wickeddoll®" > I really hate to see him this miserable, because I don't think he's a bad

Nat, based on Charles' correspondence (and constant bitching) I'd guess that he's reveling in his misery, because without it, he'd have nothing to grumble about. ....and his life would seem empty. It's interesting that he can find no woman of any age who fulfills his requirements. But let's turn it around - perhaps he doesn't fulfill any woman's requirements. Although, in his mind, he's truly God's Gift to the Female of the Species. Pitiful.

Personally, I think you're both right. What Natalie says about Charles needing some help (in the snipped part of her previous post), & your observations.

Cathy

Very important question to ask of ourselves.

Heh - I figured this part out ages ago!

Cathy

You forgot:

1. Has even one working brain cell 9. Not attracted to losers.
2. Finds nothing appealing in 100% psycho guys.
3. Thinks 50-year-olds should be living on their own.
4. Knows that even this woman thought you weren't classy enough:

"Cathy F." ...

"mack" wrote:

Hubby and I don't agree on everything (I don't believe in capital punishment, and he does, for instance)

But we agree on the important things.

Natalie

If both people agreed on *everything* it could be harmonious to the point of being boring.

Cathy

"Cathy F." ...

No kidding!

Natalie

Bingo. Make-up sex is a nice change in the middle of an otherwise normal week.

"JoeSpareBedroom"

Leave it to a guy to cheapen the moment.

:-)

Natalie

And wine and champagne and bread and pretzels and... and... Well, God knows what else! I guess this matter will have to be referred back to BGM for further review and guidance for Chuck.

But surely even Charles couldn't be averse to the monks producing bread & pretzels! Oh, wait a minute - prob. way too materialistic to want to earn money to keep the monastery in funds...

I guess this matter will have to be referred back to BGM for

Good idea.

Cathy

Isn't life and death an important thing?

I should have clarified my comment - I thought it might be confusing.

What I mean is that we agree on the things that are important to *our relationship*, not a broader issue like whether a law is just.

Hope that helps

Natalie

What I mean is that we agree on the things that are important to *our relationship*, not a broader issue like whether a law is just. Hope that helps Natalie

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ie... he pays and she plays...or as the sistas like to say...no romance without finance..

"CharlesTheCurmudgeon"..

And you've met and analyzed every single woman from every single place in the country, or even just in Illinois? Preposterous.

I've been married for nearly 21 years, and I say you're a loser too - but

If you're anywhere near as negative as you seem to be on the NG, I don't wonder why you've had no luck with women. Further, if I'd waited for a guy who agreed with *everything* I believe politically, I'd be the lady who has all the cats. I suppose you have loads of *male* friends who are as conservative as you, huh? Oh, wait - you already told me this one. Men today are brainwashed by liberal women. That's pretty insulting of these mens' intelligence and strength of character. I can assure you, I never could get Bob to change any of his views, political or otherwise, nor would I try. We're divergent on many things, as are the other couples we know. Being able to compromise on what's worth fighting over, and what is not, is key. Like Cathy says, hooking up with someone who thinks *exactly* like you would be a huge bore. At least to most, I should think. Sounds like you want to marry *yourself.*

And none of that existed in the old days, I suppose. BAH

I will agree with you on the kidney thing for many (ditto a woman with a significant health problem), but if, when Bob and I were getting serious, he told me he had such a disorder, I *know* I would not have dumped him. The key is to let the relationship develop, and don't go into it with preconceived notions. If you end up going your separate ways, she has no need of knowing. If you think you want to go further, it's appropriate to lay your cards on the table. I went into my relationship with Bob hoping to make another friend. It wasn't until he made his feelings known to me that I even thought of him as a romantic partner. I think good friends are at least as important as lovers, and I treasure them all.

I know I may as well be talking to my comb, but the humanitarian in me just hates seeing anyone cling to misery so steadfastly as you, Charles.

Please, PUH-LEEZE get some help!

Natalie