Ive heard all the complaints against Fram, but used them for many years with never a problem...ever. I have switched to Wix or Delco, or just about whatever else I can get, simply so that I dont have to take a lot of BS from people here IF I should ever have a failure;>) Now, if you put them on with a 48' pipe wrench, you may have a gasket failure.
The space shuttle seal ring was a different situation. No 'rubber' would have stopped super hot exhaust from coming through there. If it were hot enough to cut into the main fuel tank, no elastomer known to man can stand up to direct exposure to those levels of temperature. The mechanical design, as I remember the case, and the implementation of the assembly process led to a damaged seal ring which then allowed plasma-like gas to escape.