Unless one is the party involved, it's easy and tempting to imagine the worst. I'm confident your expectations are met in many instances, but I also believe they're not the norm.
Happily, I have scant personal data. My wife's Subaru Forester gave its life to save hers. Outwardy the damage looked fixable, but on closer examination it was clear that the forward crumple zone had crumped its little heart out. Its designers, engineers and builders deserve medals.
Our insurer, AMICA, offered to sell us the carcass for $300 but I declined the opportunity. BTW, the settlement was very satisfactory -- right down to paying us the state sales tax on the car's pre-event value.
We took the money and bought a Prius. We hope we'll never learn how it crumps. :-)
Brent