Thanks to all on this newsgroup for the advice. It took most of the day for me to get the ECU out; I had to go buy a deep socket set because the bolts stuck too far out to get at the nut with my regular set. It's always good to have more tools though. Then once I got the plate loose I had to unscrew the two boxes from the plate from the back because I couldn't get the plate out with the boxes attached. Lots of nasty words passed my lips.
Once that was accomplished I had two boxes with a bunch of wire modules attached so I pulled out the wire connectors, leaving me with two metal boxes. Those I took to the junkyard and the nice folks there (all gathered around a TV watching the World Cup) told me that one was for the transmission and the other was what I needed.
So I got the ECU for $60 with a money back guarantee, took it home, plugged the new one and the transmission one back in, put the battery back (it was charging on a cheapo 12 volt charger since it was just about dead) and it started right up. I drove it around the block and then put all the parts back together.
It lives. I think it's time to look for another car though but at least I can take my time now. Thanks again for the advice.