Don't crank the dead car while the donor car is running; this is a great way to waste an alternator and who knows what else. It's fine for the donor to be running while connected and charging the dead car, but when it comes time to crank the dead car, shut the donor car off.
--TW Voice of experiences.
Alternators are not made to be operated at the high end their output for extended periods of time. Charging a dead battery can load an alternator significantly, which increases it's operating temperature (which on most vehicles decreases output voltage). The added draw of the starter, particularly during periods of long cranking, can overheat the alternator leading to failure. I worked in the auto salvage business and fried enough alternators (semi-intentionally) to say it's better safe than sorry.
--TW I don't care.