Here in MN we use warm water to recondition ice hockey rinks because it has time to sheet before freezing. That's why you see steam rising behind the Zamboni. Warm water poured on the windshield at -20F might crack the windshield but even if it didn't it would turn to ice so quickly as to make matters worse. I don't know anyone who uses the de-icer solution. I tried it once and it made a terrible mess. I also haven't seen a car with it's windshield covered for this purpose.
Most ice scrapers have two sides, one with teeth that cuts groves in ice, the other flat and sharp to get under the ice. After a freezing rain, when there is 1/4" of ice on the glass, it is best to first run the car until it is putting warm air on the windshield. Then cut grooves in the ice with once side of the scraper and peel away what remains with the other. The side windows can really be tough after a freezing rain if the temp drops much be 10F.