Ok, so after a week of research, $500, and some serious migranes, I have found the 'almost definitive' answer on getting fogs into the V6.
The parts needed are the Ford OEM grille, fog switch, and fog lights from the GT, and the wiring harness being hawked all over ebay (DONT buy the grille kit theyre selling).
To make the grille fit in the V6, clip the bottom clips on the GT grille off with some tin snips. The rest of the clips fit, so just clip the grille in. Use some self-tapping screws to secure the bottom, or some C clips if you can find them.
The wiring harness hooks up pretty easy, just follow the instructions. Instead of wiring the switch the way they want you to, install the OEM switch (it just pops in basically), and wire it in by pulling off the plastic clips off the harness and the switch. Use some heatshrink and a saudering iron to hook up the two wires to the prongs in the switch. It doesnt matter which wire goes where.
Pretty simple, takes about an hour, and oh yeah, no need to drill your grille!
IF anyone needs more help and/or pics, let me know. Just thought Id share.