I think a lot of you are on to something with the loss of power... neighbor lady had exactly the same problem .. intermittent as can be,, no one could/would take time to fix it... another neighbor and I were discussing it and we came to the same conclusion..however he is the genius not me.. but what he did is hook up a data recorder to the battery, cigarette lighter socket, and the I think the bulkhead connector on the "relay box" under the hood..
What was found was not a total loss of power but,, the voltage normally about 13.6-13.8 or so would drop temporarily (the recorder was digital and couldn't resolve to less than 1 minute) to like 12.5v ,, not enough to really "do" anything but must have been enough to drive the computer nuts.. solution turned out to be the alternator ,, didn't get a chance to disassemble it she had someone else change it,, but it has been over 4 months now with nary a problem, was happening to her about every 2 weeks or so, but really nothing she could put her finger on or cause to recur purposely..
Oh,, her car had about 90000 miles on it at the time..
I think anything would be worth a shot at this point. I suppose if you had a couple voltmeters and a co-pilot you could do the same thing,, dunno for sure.