One general observation. The importance you place on comfort will change between your 20s and your 60s (remember the original poster?). I'm not 60 yet, but I'm closer to it than 20. If you don't know why I put such an emphasis on comfort, just wait. You'll find out.
Talk to gixer. He can not only draw the distinction, he expects everyone to recognize it without any explanation.
The two of you should get along well. Enjoy each other's company.