I located a fuse box in the trunk right by the battery- but it didn't seem complete: there was no mention of headlights, AC, horn, or turn signals, but instead a surprising number of fuses dedicated to seat motors. This fuse box contained a green plug with a 30 amp fuse on it- I'm guessing that's the relay, but I'd appreciate any assistance.
Thanks, and sorry for the dork question: my wife misplaced her owner's manual.
Dave O