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Solid rock has specific gravity of 2.7 - 3.2 density and some sands (such as as Zircon sand) 4.6!
Your weight estimate may be a lot low.
If your ABS is coming on in the dry then the total load or its distribution may be out of limit, however that is what it is there for and although it may indicate that you are pushing it and may not stop in time, you are unlikely to hurt the brakes.
Not so the engine and transmission, which are not going to like dragging a truck load of sand about for very far.