I usually use a diff nick on this board. Hopefully I wont be too embarased to explain who I am when this is all over . But I hope you knowledgeable guys and GALs can help me.
I know nothing about cell phones and never cared to), but I have a GF in another state and would like to know if anyone has a Tmobile side kick cell phone and can answer a few things.
Like can the call waiting be disabled? I would assume so? So if I ask her to hang up and disable it and she says she doesn't know how I can tell her. I'm in another state working and she is in our home state and lately I have that feeling that I'm sure many of us know.
And now It's just a matter of getting all the facts (for me) and making an informed decision..
How about billing by T-mobile? do they bill the same all over? She mentioned sending me a copy of her bill , but only once and now doesn't bring it up any more. Do they have the same billing cycle for everyone in the country? (Ie -bills go out on the 1st?) I figure if I ask her to send a bill and she says I don't get it till the x and it really comes on z....
As you can see I'm up thinking about the lies instead of sleeping and taking care of MYSELF. What other methods can I use to flush out a liar. It seems cut and dry for me though. Last weekend she been picked a fight on Thurs and dissappeared most of the weekend.
I called her on her BS and said let's get together when I get up there and go our seperate ways until then instead of each of us having to wonder and explain things. When I sent her that email it seemed to upset her and it appeared she cared what my 'plans' were..
Long distance relationships don't work very well. And since you are an untrusting type then you will always be suspicious of her unless she is attached to your side. It would probably be best for you to release her so she doesn't have to be bound to your insecurity.
I'm glad my misery can be such entertainment for you guys. Actually I searched for a 'cheaters' group but couldn't find one. I do find the IQ to be very high on this DB on average. So, if anyone is going to make fodder of my dire straits I don't mind it being people with intelect.
I meant to go to a Tmobile store today to get advice from the pros. I woundn't tbe so forthcoming with them though..
My stratagey in the past has always been vacate the premise as it were... But this is one of those (VERY) rare occasions I find myself actually caring for the person...
But if tonight's experiment is what I think it's going to (turn out to ) be I'm going to have to bail. I'll have nothing to lose, because I will 'probably' know after tonight if I ever (really) had anything in the first place.. Thanks.
But please try harder to give me more angles to come at this one with ???
I think you already know the answer, but it could also be your imagination. Make your decision on what to do after gathering all the facts and get as close to The Truth as you can - but don't drag it out. Make that decision and be at peace with it.
Be a little forthcoming - they know all the federal and state laws on wiretapping and other crimes - you don't want to cross that line and put her in a position of power over you, if you think it's bad now that could make it get seriously ugly.
If you're looking for her to voluntarily hand you proof on paper of infidelity you should know better than to ask. Ain't gonna happen - you are going to have to either find it yourself or give up on her.
Even if you really do care, if she does not and she's bound and determined to hurt you there's no sense in hanging around just waiting to get beat up on. Even if you love her, if she's making strange moves like The Runaway Bride, get the hell out now.
It takes two people to make a real relationship work, and once one side has lost it it's real hard to get it back.
And Never EVER Stay In A Relationship With A Crazy Person - Even if the sex is fantastic. All it takes is for her to poke pinholes in the condoms, and you can be on the hook for large amounts of your income for the next 18 years 9 months, or longer. You don't even need to be the guilty party - if the real father is a flake and you look more responsible, all she has to do is put your name on the birth certificate as the father and you are screwed. You'll have a hell of a fight and spend a lot for tests and court costs getting it off.
Look at the one T-Mobile bill copy you were sent - if they billed that one on the tenth of the month, they will likely bill every tenth
- if that normal billing day falls on a weekend it will get pushed back a day or two, usually they do not do them sooner.
The companies usually have several billing cycles through the month to keep their computers, people and printing/mailing equipment busy all the time, and do not change the billing cycle for an account unless asked. If you know when it should be there and still get bullshit, there's a reason for the lies. You /are/ getting an answer, even if it is non verbal and really not what you wanted to know.
If you know the PIN on her voicemail, and you know when the phone will be turned off (like college classes or an employer with an ironclad rule) you could see who has been leaving messages - but that's dangerously close to invasion of privacy.
There is usually a way to get into the voicemail without calling the mobile number - like calling YOUR voicemail, and then instead of using a #(Octothorp/Pound) to enter your PIN you use a *(Star) to select another mailbox on that system. Or they have a separate
7-digit number assigned for mailbox access, and then enter the target phone number. But again, you could be making yourself trouble if it could be considered hacking into her voicemail - review the TOS/AUP Rules of the mobile carrier first.
You can call her from a line with no Caller ID and see if she picks up that call - right after she lets one from your cellphone (that she can see the Caller ID on) go to voicemail.
It all boils down to "If you love someone, set them free - if they love you they'll return, if they don't there never was." It sounds
100% trite and sappy, but it's true.
Although with cats (and some people) don't expect an exuberant slobbering kisses "Welcome Home!" like a dog - with them, a simple head butt in the leg when you get home (that acknowledges your existence) can speak volumes.
On all GSM phones where the feature is provisioned:
To query call waiting, *#43# and SEND To enable call waiting, *43# and SEND To disable call waiting, #43# and SEND
Note that most carriers, including T-Mobile, will automatically re-enable call waiting after a period of time (hours, a day, something like that); you can't disable it permanently.
No. It's based on your contract start date. And if you call T-Mobile you can change your bill date (once).
If you have to ask, then it's not worth researching the matter further.
I know this is going to come across wrong but IMO if you cant ask if they're cheating and get an honest answer, good or bad, they're not worth being with. Above all a relationship should be based on trust and honesty. Your trust has failed and maybe her honesty, restore the trust by asking the question and getting an answer showing her honesty or accept its not worth bothering.
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