First - pretty sure the head gasket is blown. There's oil in the coolant. The oil is not contaminated and there has been no loss of coolant. I can't think of anything else that might have contaminated the coolant.
What got me looking around was when I went to change the oil, the plastic cap popped right off in my hand. The threaded portion is melted into the inlet on the valve cover. We never noticed it running hot and I last checked the coolant about two months ago. I pulled the valve cover off & luckily nothing got into the motor.
Could the cover have melted becuase of a blown head gasket?
Thanks!