The switch I was referring to is the actual reverse switch, which on the one I did the other week was on top of the gearbox below the battery.
there is a relay shown on autodata: in the relay box under the bonnet there are 4 relays in a square next to some fuses: depending on whther you have petrol or diesel it is a different relay: No 8 if it is diesel (nearest to the edge of the box and the fuses (no 40)) or 9 if petrol which is one row up and one to the right (no fuses next to it.)