### - in order to answer i'll assume for a minute that you're not being at all disingenuous with this probe john, and that it's not just some kind of clever intellectual trap you've devised to catch people out with, but a genuine question because you're just curious (i.e. i'll grant you that chance/possibility and answer accordingly this time:)
i.e. disputing tom's interpretation of things is the easier of the two questions here... for example, tom (and/or people like him) admittedly limits everything he says/talks about to the field of logic... e.g. he agrees, at least in principle, that 'descriptions' & 'constructions' of reality can't be the same as reality itself because they are wholly man-made inventions but then 'insists' on a logical reply/answer even when it's been suggested that logic (like all language based reasoning) is probably not the ultimate measure of reality but merely an intellectually appraised + projected distortion that people have learned to relate to/identify with, possibly (i conjectured) because that's just the easier of the two options, and humanity went the easy route with exploring (i.e. they entered into/opted-for a fixed, language-based, albeit multi-variable 'interpretation' of reality instead of going for the more difficult thing)
also, when then one has long conversations (interactions) with people in which one is subjected to their many reactions to certain things & topics, then after a while, and without any effort, you slowly begin to formulate an impression of that person that is then either further qualified/refuted as you go along, until inevitably there's appears on the horizon a bunch of realisations concerning the person in question (just keep the personal self out of the picture is all)
### - a person's words reveals their thoughts?
### - smile, that's not an easy request john, to clear things up for you i mean... but i can loan you a broom :) e.g. it only takes practice to learn to keep the personal 'self' to one side in these matters (i.e. what one
*thinks* one wants or doesn't want (likes/dislikes etc) might just have to be temporarily left to one side when it comes to dealing directly with a reality that was hidden/obscured by thoughts + a preferential language-set in the first place... one must perforce learn to become detached)obviously then (plus assuming you can already do it) one will then encounter other people who'll you recognise don't have that particular discipline (over themselves) in holding back their more personal language, preferences & ideas when it comes to probing a reality that actually exists *beyond* any such language-based interpretation system (i.e. they have then a handicap)
for example: i noticed that tom has 'already' replied on my behalf to your request before i even got the chance to do so? - e.g. notice he's deliberately putting his 'own' particular spin on it before i even make my own reply... plus why do you think that is... particularly since all his suggestions contained therein are of a rather negative + disparaging nature... i mean what could possibly prompt a person to respond like that, could it be the fear/anticipation of being made to look wrong? or a personal resentment of some kind? and if not, then why the anger?
see? i didn't 'ask' these things of tom... he's *volunteering* them... or from another angle: he's 'leaking' them all over the place, and/or inadvertently then revealing things about himself that he probably doesn't want people to know but that other people might still be able to read... and from which, tom it thus appears, like many people on this planet, tends to live in a rather insular (insulated) world with only his own reflections for feedback...
the point being... that 'anyone' having a direct encounter with reality will immediately perforce realise the limiting + distorting nature of language, if only because they had to 'supersede (rise above so to speak) their 'own' limiting language-set to have that encounter with reality in the first place
and so yes... inner silence IS the way to experience reality directly... or rather, inner silence gives rise to unknown + unrealised 'experiences' of reality that may or may not be much closer to 'ultimate' reality than any language based version/construct of same could ever be...
and where does that leave us... well imho it leaves people with a choice to be made... from here on in to 'consciously' remain in language based investigations alone, and/or whether to let inner-silence based experiences amend their vocabulary/repertoire...
there's more, but let's see how/what you get along with/make-of that first (e.g. tom hasn't gotten (wont go?) beyond this particular point/part either, his adherence to logic apparently wont let him :)